Written By Darryl McIntyre

The following is a message I wrote 15 years ago to encourage a Christian lady who was going through a severe burnout, which was complicated by a series of failed relationships. I have concealed her identity. She was an attractive lady and highly successful, but said that her life felt empty. She was eager to meet Mr. Right and start a family. Now in her late thirties, she was discouraged about her prospects of meeting a good Christian man and began to wonder if she would spend the rest of her life alone and childless.

After spending time in prayer, the Lord gave me these few words of encouragement to lift her spirits. Her enthusiastic reply left me certain that He knew just what she needed to hear. (Praise God!) Looking back, I would offer the same advice today to anyone facing the same struggle. It is my prayer that this will bless some of your readers.


Hi Nadia,

I want you to know that you have a Helper in Jesus who goes everywhere with you. It is my prayer that you will seek Him out, surrender yourself totally to Him in humility, and lay your cares at His feet. Then be still, trust Him, and just rest in His peace.

If you will do this, and practice a little patience, I am confident that after a short time (when you are at your most humble), He will lift you up again. He will heal you, restore you, encourage you, and give you energy/enthusiasm like never before.

Then, to all of this He will add, for His own good pleasure, all of those good and honorable blessings that you desire. Your cup will indeed overflow.

I have learned that if we lack faith (as I myself have at times), the best thing to do is simply obey His word in our daily lives. Then our faith (and peace) will be restored.

Once back in His peace, let us remember the misery we had before and praise Him. (Praise is so important! He has answered countless prayers for us all.) Then just envelop ourselves in His Word and the company of His children.

If you do this, one day soon hopefully, most likely an amazing Christian man will notice your attitude and behavior. You may just be laying down napkins at a church picnic and had never seen him or spoken to him before, but through Divine intervention, this man will be granted the gift to see you through God’s eyes. (“For God does not see as man sees. For man looks upon the outward appearance, but God looks upon the heart.”) In that instant, he’ll see the grace, dignity, delicate poise, humility, kindness, and the Christian love pouring out of you. (Trust me, there is nothing more attractive to a Godly man.) Some time will pass, and you’ll get to know each other. Then, again through Divine intervention and because of his Christian walk, his fleshly nature will seem to disappear, and He will fall in love with you, the person inside. And so shall it be with you.

Then your family will take root with the anointing and blessings of the Living God.

Trust and obey.


And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

***Remember, God is good, and His plan for you is good, precious single women. His timing is perfect. In the meantime, be holy both in body and in spirit (1 Corinthians 7:34). It’s important to attend a solid, Bible believing church too!

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