Love is a verb, not a feeling

In raising our children, we were diligent to teach them to be guided by Truth rather than by their emotions and feelings. We taught them to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and renew their minds daily with Truth, God’s Word. This is the single most important thing you need to teach your children after training them to obey you.

Timothy Allen has been commenting on my Facebook lately. I recently shared one of his comments on a blog post. Here’s another power-packed one. He is a man with a lot of wisdom.

Christians need to unlearn the modern/Hollywood/Feminist emotional idea of love and stick with what God’s definition.

Love is a verb. According to scripture, you express love as a series of actions. Note from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 that when God refers to emotions, it is almost always negative.

1. Love is being patient
2. Love is being kind.
3. Love does not express envy (emotion)
4. Love does not express pride
5. Love does not dishonor others
6. Love does not seek for itself
7. Love is not easily angered (emotion)
8. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in good
9. Love always protects
10. Love always trusts
11. Love always hopes

According to God, saying “I love you” means I will behave in these ways towards you. Not that I will feel a certain way. Feelings change. If we rely on feeling a certain way to be “in love,” we are doomed to failure (and divorce). The promise to wed is the promise to behave in certain ways…no matter how you feel from one day to the next. Now, apply all of the above to Jesus saying to “love your enemies.”

Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently.
1 Peter 1:22