Many in the churches have watered down a husband’s authority over their wife. It’s too offensive to many, therefore, the solution is to call it complementarianism, have the husband called to “lead and serve” his wife, and do away with Patriarchy altogether. What does God have to say about this?
“Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee” (Genesis 3:16).
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands” (1 Peter 3:1).
“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement” (Ephesians 3:5,6).
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord” (C0lossians 3:18).
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” (Ephesians 5:22-24)
“But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence” (1 Timothy 2:12).
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God…Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” (1 Corinthians 11:3, 9)
“To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:5).
What does submit mean? “To yield, resign or surrender to the power, will or authority of another.”
What does obey mean? “To do that which is commanded or required.”
It’s not unclear at all what God’s will is for you, women. Does God require this of you because you are less than your husband? Are you less than your children because God commands that they obey you? This is simply God’s authority structure. Without this, chaos reigns since two heads create a monster.
When you learn to have a submissive spirit towards your husband, you will no longer argue and quarrel with him. You will simply state your opinion and then let it go. You won’t try to control and manipulate him. You will be submitting to your husband as unto the Lord. You will be building up your home with your own hands, therefore, peace will reign in your home.