For many years, I listened to the Dennis Prager radio show. He spoke often about men’s and women’s struggle. He said whereas men struggle with their sexual nature, women struggle with their emotional nature. I believed it 100 percent! Women absolutely struggle with being led by their emotions and feelings more than most men. This is why women are more easily deceived (1 Timothy 2:14).
I never struggled with my sexual nature. I didn’t feed it when I was young. I was never exposed to porn but even if I had been, porn was simply naked women when I was growing up. I didn’t want to look at naked women. I didn’t watch sexualized TV shows or movies, and I didn’t read sexually explicit books. None of this appealed to me. Thankfully, I was shielded from all of this in my childhood. I knew sex was for marriage, and so I waited for marriage.
I have learned that many women these days struggle with porn. Why is this? I have many friends and know many younger women who have never struggled with porn or their sexual nature, but I can guarantee you that every single teenage boy has struggled with it. God created males with a much higher sex drive for a reason. They have ten times the testosterone than females, and it’s needed to go out and make a living for their families. Biologically, men have a physical need for release, thus the reason they have wet dreams. Women have neither of these.
Women these days may struggle with their sexual nature before marriage, but once married, many no longer seem to struggle with it. Many will use it as a manipulative tool against their husband by withholding sex. There’s a reason that many women are so angered when I teach them to not deprive their husbands sexually. If they were truly struggling with their sexual nature, they would willingly want sex with their husbands often.
Most men want sex after marriage as much as before. If they don’t, it’s usually due to porn usage. I don’t care what women tell me; men struggle much more with their sexual nature than women do. COUNTLESS men will admit that once they married, their wives rarely wanted sex. And don’t tell me that it’s because the men didn’t know how to please them. These same women gave these men sex freely before marriage. (That whole “test driving” and “see if we’re compatible” before marriage aren’t so fool proof after all. It has nothing to do with compatibility. It was to do with love and commitment.)
In the 1960s, women decided to burn their bras and act like men. They wanted to have sex freely like men were having it. Before birth control and abortions, this wasn’t prevalent nor easily accomplished. Women were much more careful about protecting their virginity. Feminism and birth control changed all this.
Now, we live in a highly sexualized culture that is greatly damaging to women. Instead of being taught to save themselves for marriage and guard what they see, they are taught the opposite, even in the schools. Many are exposed to porn from a young age. Porn now consists of watching other people having sex. We are a nation of perverted peeping Toms. It’s wicked and destructive. It’s all a part of Satan’s plan to destroy the family.
I asked women on Instagram who struggled with their sexual nature and porn, what they believe instigated it. The two top most common reasons were being exposed to porn at a young age (babysitters, sleep overs, dad and mom watching it, friends…) and being sexually abused as a child.
In this highly sexualized culture, parents must be very diligent about protecting their children from porn and sexual abuse. This is why I believe homeschooling is the best and safest place for children. They need the watchful eye of their mothers. Even if they go to a Christian school, there will be peers that have been exposed to debauchery and will willingly share it with your children. Do the best that you can to protect your children’s innocence and pray for them diligently. Satan is on the prowl to kill, steal, and destroy.
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints…And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
Women Struggling with Pornography