Should women give their husbands, who are having an affair, sexual intimacy in hopes of winning them back? I’ve been pondering this lately since making my video about this.
Some say no way! Not until they repent and are checked for STDs, but there are some women who did give their husbands sex in hopes of winning them back. One even got an STD and didn’t win him back. Are we promised no scars in the battle? Was it worth the fight for her? She doesn’t know. She said looking back she may have done things differently, but she is going to be marrying a godly man soon who knows about this, and he isn’t worried about it at all.
One woman said it’s up to each woman to decide, but she felt demanding him to repent and get checked for an STD would have hindered her in the battle for her husband. He came home, and their marriage is now a beautiful story of redemption. During his visits with the children, it would be difficult to not want to be intimate with your husband whom you still love and have had sex with hundreds of times not to fall into bed together at times after the children had gone to bed.
Another woman told me she was having sex with her adulterous husband but decided to stop. He then began missing her touch and the home he had with her. He longed for her and eventually came home. Their marriage has been restored.
There is no perfect answer. Each woman must prayerfully decide for herself. Some women felt they lost their husbands to an affair because they continually deprived them sexually, so they didn’t want to take the risk of losing them permanently by denying them in their fight to win their husbands back.
So when women ask me about this, I will encourage them to pray and be wise in how they go about trying to win their husbands back to themselves.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
1 Peter 3:1,2