Despite the rhetoric, Communist Cabalist cult-ure has dehumanized women to the level of porn stars and whores.
Having destroyed marriage and family, Feminism has left them with nothing else to offer men.
It started with “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” but now it’s “a man needs a woman like a fish needs a bicycle.” The Internet is alive with women screaming about how men no longer approach them or seek commitment. Feminism has let men off the hook. They now realize that unless they definitely want a family, young women generally are a trap. The vast majority (not all) are boring and stupid. They were designed by nature to bring up children. This is essential to a healthy society.
Most of what passes for “love” is sexual desire. Cabalist Jews have turned sex into a religion: Orgasm is a mystical experience and sacrament. We have been inducted into this satanic sex-and-death cult. Hollywood portrayed sex as a panacea. It turned us into sex addicts with mainstream films that verged on porn (i.e. American Pie, Risky Business) Womyn are idealized. Movie intercourse takes place to a chorus of angels. This is Bliss. This is unity with God. We have been brainwashed.
In reality, sexual intercourse is a bodily function no different from defecation unless it celebrates an exclusive bond between a man and a woman.
Men must stop trying to suck meaning from “relationships.” (Women get meaning from motherhood. Men from protecting and providing for their families. Men also get meaning from their work.)
Many men have ruined their lives chasing tail. I am one of them. Women need to be enlisted, not petitioned. But who needs them?
By far, the best companion in the world is YOU!
Today- Another man has a meltdown over a woman and ruins his life.
Men – Design Your Perfect “10” (Updated)
(Updated from 2007 and Nov 20, 2021)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
Lately I have been thinking about a really great woman I knew when I was 24. I ignored Liz because I wasn’t sexually attracted to her. She was pleasant-looking but there was no “chemistry.”
She had many of the qualities in the left-hand column below, and she liked me. But my tastes and even my ideas had been formed by PLAYBOY. Average-looking women literally were invisible.
I had been brainwashed by my cult-ure to believe that “sexual attraction” is 90% of what male-female relationships are all about.
Marriages were based on sexual attraction. You had to live together before marriage to make sure you were “sexually compatible.” Sex was the Holy Grail. Women had the keys!
I was thinking about Liz lately, wondering what her life has been like. Wondering how my life would have been had I responded to her overture.
It must be hard for really great women to be ignored just because they aren’t “hot.” All women are beautiful in the act of love. Their face is a light show.
Men search in vain for a porn model that turns them on. None do because there is no emotional connection. What we really seek is femininity, charm and personality.I was thinking about Liz because at age 74, I realize that sex is only part of a good marriage. And
good sex isn’t dependent on sex appeal.There is no greater turn-on than the look of love in a woman’s eyes. We seek intimacy, not physical release.
You don’t need sexual attraction to have a great marriage and great sex.My cult-ural brainwashing cost me a normal sex life and family because overvaluing sex emasculates a man. Women are hypergamous. A man undermines himself when he puts a woman on a pedestal.
BESOTTED WITH SEX
Our cult-ure is besotted wth sex. It wasn’t until I was 50 that I realized female beauty and character were not connected. I was so brainwashed by the movies, and PLAYBOY that attributed a moral quality to attractive women. Most (not all) sexually attractive women are vacuous.
“Beauty is only skin deep,” I told my third wife, the Filipina. “You taught me that.”
Our cult-ure is run by a satanic cult which dehumanizes women. Women and now young girls are taught that their only value lies in their sex appeal. When sex was tied to marriage, their measure was as wives and mothers. Now they’re strippers & porn stars.
Femininity is modest. There is a gaping hole where femininity used to be. The world is starved for it.
HIGH AND DRY
Men today see women as sex objects. Men are dogs and women are fire hydrants. Men can’t form honest relationshiops because they don’t see women as people.
Sex without love and commitment is dehumanizing. Satanists use sex to control and degrade us.
“We corrupt in order to control,” is their motto.
Many people are sexually attractive. But we can love very few, and very few can love us. These are the only people we should have sex with.
When you love someone, you really want their happiness. It’s not just what they can give you.
What if I knew all this back then? I wouldn’t have had three failed marriages by the age of 50, two largely based on sexual attraction.
I am happily married now but how different my life might have been. I might have had a family.
My 22-year fourth marriage has taught me that marital partners cannot be custom-designed, as the hypothetical exercise below assumes. People come fully formed. You cannot choose options as with a car. You enjoy the good and put up with the bad. And they with you.
We also have a tendency to look for our male or female counterpart, our “soul mate.” I have been more successful with someone who is not like me, but rather complements me. For example, I have no patience for “technology” but my wife is a techie.
The thought of being married to my female counterpart (left) horrifies me. In general, a man needs to accept his wife on her own terms, and be patient and nurturing. Never let her control you. Meet her reasonable demands.
Finally, if I were designing a spouse from the list below, I would not choose sex appeal at all. I would choose all ten great personality traits. Sex is mostly in the mind. You can shut your eyes and have great sex, especially when your partner has the wonderful qualities listed below.
How could you not love such a human being? Having sex used to be called “making love.”
Men, Design your perfect “10” You can choose 10 of the 20 qualities listed below. If you choose only from the right-hand column, you will get the woman in the picture above, but she will have none of the qualities in the left-hand column. Put another way, what are you willing to give up for sex appeal? Write and tell me your answer. Give your age. (hmakow@gmail.com)
Character (Honest, Fair) Sex Appeal
Personality (Cheerful & fun) Sex Appeal
Great Sense of Humor Sex Appeal
Intelligent and reasonable Sex Appeal
Skills & Talents Sex Appeal
Warm and loving Sex Appeal
Devoted & Loyal Sex Appeal
Common Beliefs & Interests Sex Appeal
Great conversation.
Incredible Cook & HomemakerGood mother to your children. Sex Appeal
Unselfish, Interested in Others Sex Appeal
—–Related– Men! Seek Help Mates, Not Soul Mates We have been satanically possessed by Cabalism Cabala – How Sex Became Our Religion Sexual Depravity is the Hallmark of Satanic Possession First Comment by Wade
Have not emailed in a while. You asked for your reader’s response. I am 75 married 24 years to my 3rd. wife who is 46. I married the first two times based on sex appeal. My current wife and I have worked together every day for 30 years and still do. I am not retired. I still ride my Harley. Upon first meeting my current wife I was not attracted to her at all, (not my type I thought) but I greatly admired her non-sexual attributes. We became close friends long before romance.
I took your test and checked every thing on the left side and was not willing to give up any left side attributes for sex appeal. I am sure I would not have had the wisdom to answer your test in that manner when I was a younger man. It is not that sex is no longer important to me. I mean I have a 46 year old wife to keep me young. It is just that with time, and much costly and painful experience the left side of your test is clearly all that really matters.
It would be great to devise some way that this wisdom could be imparted to young men before they marry for the 1st. time. Not easily accomplished. Thanks for a very helpful article for your readers.
Ken Adachi wrote:
Women already possess all the sex appeal they need by virtue of being born a woman. It’s what they do with the equipment after its issued that makes the difference in what sort of man they wind up with (and I’m not talking about plastic surgery or any primitive alterations to the body; e.g. tattoos, ..ugh).
The Universal Law of Cause & Effect is always in play, 24/7, in every dimension of reality, whether it’s the 3rd or the 5th; the same spiritual rules apply. You reap what you sow.
Decent men are attracted to a decent woman because of their decent behavior and attitudes. Women who throw away their self-respect by talking, acting, dressing, or behaving coarsely, wind up with the sort of guy who’s turned on by vulgarity and cheapness. Is that who they want for a husband (or unmarried “partner”) and father of their kids?
If she shows off her body in public at every opportunity, then she’s TRYING to attract a lot of basic, Neanderthals types. Is that who YOU want for your wife and the mother of your kids?
It’s how feminine a woman acts, feels and behaves that motivates normal, decent guys. Normal men are as excited by a small breasted woman as they are by large breasted women if the woman looks, acts, and thinks like the soft, loving and vulnerable gift to mankind that they were meant to be by Divine Plan ~ then it’s “Bingo”: every single time.
It’s that gentility, sweetness, and devotion to that one special man that makes life a gift from one end to the other. Look at Audrey Hepburn. A small body in every department, yet how feminine and desirable she was for millions of men BECAUSE of her innate feminine qualities in both appearance and behavior.
Sex is God’s way to show us the Light about the more important roles of love, honor – and above all – the heart, in our lives.
You can find this article permanently at https://henrymakow.com/design-the-perfect-woman.html
Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at henry@henrymakow.com
Comments for “Men – The Best Companion in the World is YOU”
JM said (November 22, 2021):
Your article made me think of the quote attributed to Socrates:
“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
Socrates
I doubt very much that the quote is authentic, but rather based on the (apparently controversial in itself) character of his wife, Xanthippe, who, it is said, he married knowing full well her difficult nature. Still, I believe the thought behind the quote has merit, at least for some individuals. In my own case I can say that over more than 70 years the situations that have been most unpleasant have also resulted in the greatest enlightenment, and for that I’m grateful.
Tao said (May 7, 2020):
Firstly, I’d like to thank you for your tremendous insights in regards to relationships and love.
I’m a 25 year old from South Africa – and your insights have resulted in me having a profound paradigm shift, because what you say is true, feminism, and our brainwashed understanding of love and relationships, has lead to many broken hearts.
For example, I dated an older woman for three and a half years, starting when I was twenty-one – and much of what I thought was love was merely sexual attraction, because I was madly hooked onto her looks and sex appeal.
I was convinced I couldn’t be with a woman who didn’t make my hormones rage, but now I understand that’s a fools errand.
Sacrificing character for sex appeal is a recipe for disaster! Finding a helpmate instead of a soul mate not only intuitively feels right, it makes a tremendous lot of sense, and on reflection, I realize that what fundamentally caused my relationship to fail was because it was based on sexual attraction.
I will carry your words with me forever, as I continue to seek the companionship of a woman who wants to serve me and my goals as I help her do the same.
Thank you for your advice. It has changed my life.
Jared said (April 22, 2020):
agree with the core of the article. Here is my list of non-negotiable
desires for a wife:
Bible thumper conservative believer
anti-feminist (willing to submit)
healthy body weight (indicative of her ability to care)
Under 25 (prime fertility years are 18-26 & I desire healthy children)
Caucasian (as am I)
Did not ride the carousel (still able to bond)
Only 6 requirements yet virtually Impossible to find today so I refuse
to marry as I nourish and cherish myself (Eph 5:29 – def love).
I am completely convinced that if a woman were to do what is right, she
would almost certainly be beautiful and could attract and marry a Godly
man.
The problem is women choose otherwise.
JP said (April 22, 2020):
Hi Henry
Great article
I am 45 years old
1 Personality
2 warm & loving
3 devoted and loyal
4 good mother to children
(Not interested in cooking, that should be a separate category)
5 unselfish
6,7,8,9,10 Sex appeal!
David N said (April 22, 2020):
Thank you for your 04/21/2020 story. We’re ten years apart and I learned the lesson your teaching in the story when, of all things, it was PB mag that I detested.
It seemed to me to be a fake lifestyle that I didn’t see in my father, so I didn’t take part in it. But to my chagrin, when I got older my dad spoke to me about “titty bars” and I was embarrassed and appalled. Then wondered in my twenties what have I missed….. I came to find out that I probably missed out on an STD.
But I wanted to say thank you because I hadn’t thought about it like that for years and your ending to the story made me appreciate where I am at sixty years old.
Thank you again for the story, as it’s the first time I’ve ever read your material.
William D said (April 21, 2020):
I gave up looking for the perfect 10 long ago, after the woman I married with the” China doll” face took me to the cleaners. It ruined my attitude toward women and I never remarried, although I’ve had a few girlfriends along the way. I came close to getting serious with one a few years ago who was 12 years younger until I caught her texting another guy while we were out for the weekend.
I’m in my late 60s now and my libido has thankfully waned a lot. I’ve travelled a good bit and found I enjoy teaching, but who knows what new rules have in store for us. It sounds like I followed the same flawed plan early on that you did. Thanks for sharing.
Ryan M said (April 21, 2020):
Great post today on your website, at 40, I completely concur with your assessment.
Men are wise to minimize their exposure to the attractive unclad woman they aren’t married to. If Samson, David, and Solomon couldn’t handle it, no wise man today thinks he can either.
At the risk of being called a prude – which bothers me not at all because I only need one friend when I die: my conscience – permit me to relate that it was an admirable habit my parents taught me and my 17 siblings growing up to never go to the gym, swimming pool or beach. They also didn’t have a television in the home, and wouldn’t let us watch movies or listen to popular music, though we often tried to pursue it on our own.
It would have been wonderful if every parent in America trained their children like the Founder of Kellogg’s raised his. He understood that masturbation was wicked, today, society lies to us and says it’s wonderful.
Kellogg’s ideas on eugenics and on only copulating for procreation are off, but every single other idea he had was spot on. In light of globalist bankers trying to use many non-whites to overwhelm America with their Anti-American ideology, it’s something to consider.
Also, I’ve found the Transformed Wife website to be a treasure trove of wisdom from women who are dedicated wives and mothers, a welcome breath of fresh air in the poisonous feminist stench men in America have been breathing for so long.
Chris said (April 21, 2020):
I liked your answer to “Christine S” below
Too bad she didn’t refer you to 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. The entire chapter is devoted to the topic.
“2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. ..”