Recently, I posted a tweet written by a man explaining how incredibly immodest leggings are on women. Of course, this received numerous comments from women accusing men of not controlling themselves like this one from a woman who loves wearing leggings and refuses to stop: “The problem is MEN who can’t control themselves, not how women dress. Stop victim blaming. Men are responsible for their OWN ACTIONS.” She insists that men are the problem, not women dressing immodestly.
Here are a few wise men’s responses:
Oh… Well then with that attitude, just walk around naked right?
The problem with your argument is that you mistakenly think it’s an “either/or” extreme instead of a “both/and”…
1. Men SHOULD look at women with a pure mind. (However, there are bad/weak men – always will be. Modesty provides visual protection from lustful or weak men.)
2. Women should find modest alternatives to leggings. (Leggings hide next to nothing to the male psyche.)
It is BOTH.
You have to realize that men and especially BOYS (even extremely young) are visually stimulated and PRIMARILY aroused by seeing the female body – ESPECIALLY very young boys without maturity who haven’t seen much or any immodesty yet and are not able to control their thoughts and impulses.
Modesty protects women against bad/weak men from using you – seeing you as a piece of meat and sexually objectifying your exposed parts.
Modesty also protects young boys from being exposed to your body which could ignite concupiscence, arousal and lust. Modesty helps protect their innocence.
Here’s the second man’s comment:
The Issue of Immodesty:
Many modern women and even many modern Christian women, believe themselves modest but will walk around in spandex/yoga-pants (looking) like it’s painted on, or wear a skin tight outfit which showcases every curve, crack, and crevice. In addition, they wear a two-piece bikini which is practically no different from wearing a bra and a pair of panties. On top of that, they believe themselves modest while simultaneously wearing sensual-looking attire. (In other words, provocatively dress, and/or in some instances, behave provocatively.) Then, they have the audacity to wonder why many modern men are tempted to look. Especially when these types of women go around looking like a “walking thirst trap.”
So, instead of being a stumbling block (for men), and a vanity project for women, dress decently with appropriate clothing. In other words, have discretion and carry yourself modestly. True self-respect lies in the value of one’s purity. Henceforth, indiscretion, immodesty, and sensuality will surely defile that.
Here are some verses to substantiate the given text:
“And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.” (1 Timothy 2:9-10)
“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” (1 Peter 3:3-4)
A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.
***Some have asked me if I am KJV only. I am. I love the KJV and I only use the KJV, but I don’t want to argue with anyone about it nor insist I am right. It’s my own conviction, so if you see a post using another translation like this one because the man used another translation, I am not going to make a fuss about it.