About five years ago, women began wearing thong bathing suits on our beaches here in San Diego. When they were laying on their stomachs on their towels, they looked naked. I got to the place where I despised walking on the beaches with my husband. I hated being where naked and promiscuous women were, but he liked walking on the beach, so we continued walking on the beach. Well, those same beaches have completely eroded and are filled with rocks so we no longer walk along it. God took care of that! 🙂
When we listened to Michael Pearl teach through Hebrews in person almost 20 years ago, he told us he never went to beaches or the malls. He takes the verses about lusting seriously. Now, some of your husbands are like Michael Pearl and some aren’t. Some still like to go to the beach and malls. How do wives handle this when they are incredibly uncomfortable with almost naked women strutting around their husbands?
They have to give it to the Lord. If their husbands lust, it’s their sin, not the wives. Yes, it may make you uncomfortable but forget about being your husband’s Holy Spirit and enjoy yourself at the beach or pool. If he wants you to hold him accountable by warning him (this is what my husband asked me to do), warn him when a naked woman is nearby. If he doesn’t, then don’t! Remind yourself that this is NOT your issue or problem. Yes, it’s a huge temptation for most men, but many godly men have disciplined themselves to look away when they see immodestly dressed women since they are almost everywhere, especially in the summer.
You continue to set a good example to the women around you and your children of dressing modestly. Thankfully, there are many cute and modest bathing suits you can buy now. It’s not our job to convict the world of sin. Yes, we are to speak the truth in love, and older women are to teach younger women to be modest and discreet, but this is not our home, we’re not in control, and God wants us to love Him and others. That’s it!
Many men have become sensitized to the immodesty of women. Leggings are everywhere we look! Low and tight tops and shorts abound. This is the world we live in right now. It’s not going to get better. As believers in Jesus Christ, we are not to conform to this world but be transformed by His Word. As our culture grows darker, we will stand out as being different. This is okay! We only aim to please our Savior, not those of this world.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.