LEARNING BIBLICAL WOMANHOOD FROM OLDER WOMEN

The other night, I listened to a sermon by Voddie Baucham called The Sufficiency of Scripture in the Disciple-Making Ministry of the Church and the Home. I encourage you to all go listen to it! He affirms what I teach concerning what women should be teaching other women.

Older women are commanded to teach younger women. What are they commanded to teach them, so the young women don’t blaspheme God’s Word?

“That they may teach the young women theology, Bible, apologetics…that the word of God be not blasphemed.” This is NOT what God puts in these verses! (Voddie Baucham)

“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4,5).

Yet, few older women are teaching younger women these things, so many younger women are blaspheming God’s Word. It’s an extremely rare Women’s Bible study or conference that teaches it.

He also preached that nowhere in God’s Word is it permissible for women to preach to and pastor women. The only ones who are to be preaching and pastoring women are biblically qualified men in the churches (elders and pastors). Female Bible teachers are what has led to the proliferation and full acceptance of female pastors which is become common in most churches.

Ideally, what should be happening is that the older women in the churches are gathering with the younger women in their homes teaching and training them in the ways of biblical womanhood. It should begin happening with mothers training their daughters as they grow up. Then learning new things from the older women in the churches. The older women could pass down so many lost skills that younger women don’t have such as gardening, sewing, cooking, baking, crocheting, knitting, canning, frugality, training children, eating healthy, tips for cleaning and organizing, what submission to husband looks like, modesty, and so on.

The Church would be a FAR more powerful influence for good if the older women in the churches were actually obeying God in this area. Instead, the younger women are blaspheming His Word by living no different than the world.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

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DO NOT GIVE YOUR STRENGTH TO WOMEN

Written By Bill Smith on Facebook

“The words of King Lemuel. An oracle that his mother taught him: What, my son? What, son of my womb? What, son of my vows? Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings.” (Proverbs 31:1-3)

In 1969, Mallory Millet was invited by her sister, Kate, to attend a meeting to start a revolution. They were in the preliminary stages of forming The National Organization of Women. Kate was finishing her Ph. D. thesis for Columbia University that later became the book, Sexual Politics. The group met in the home of one of Kate’s friends, calling the meeting a “consciousness-raising-group.” The group was unabashedly Marxist, taking on communist talk and exercises. In the meeting, according to Mallory, the women went through a litany much like the Catholic Church might do but with very different content.

“Why are we here today?” she asked.
“To make revolution,” they answered.
“What kind of revolution?” she replied.
“The Cultural Revolution,” they chanted.
“And how do we make Cultural Revolution?” she demanded.
“By destroying the American family!” they answered.
“How do we destroy the family?” she came back.
“By destroying the American Patriarch,” they cried exuberantly.
“And how do we destroy the American Patriarch?” she replied.
“By taking away his power!”
“How do we do that?”
“By destroying monogamy!” they shouted.
“How can we destroy monogamy?”
“By promoting promiscuity, eroticism, prostitution and homosexuality!” they resounded.

How do you destroy Western Christian culture? Destroy the men. How do you destroy men? Take their strength … or, more accurately, have them give their strength away.

The king needs a wife, a helper comparable to him, who will aid him in the mission of developing the creation. But he must be careful. There are women out there who aren’t interested in helping a man build a household. There are leeches out there who will drain a man of all his power to fill and bring order to God’s creation. These women are trouble.

Lemuel’s mother warns her son not to give his strength to women; his ways to that which destroys kings. Don’t miss that his mother, not some misogynistic male, is giving him this counsel. His mother knows women, because she is one. If Lemuel is Solomon and the mother is Bathsheba (which is a strong possibility), the mother might know a little something about a king giving his strength to a woman.

Wise mothers are needed to instruct sons in the ways of wily women. We need mothers who understand the sinfulness particular to women, especially in their relations to men. We need mothers who are honest about their sinful tendencies, who don’t believe women are always right, or that being female is original righteousness. We need mothers who have subdued their sinful desire to rule their husbands, who show sons examples of Lady Wisdom.

Mothers like this understand that when men give their strength to women, both men and women are made weaker. Women do not gain the strength of men. They are burdened with the responsibility of men that they are not created to carry. Men and women both suffer when men give their strength to women.

The mother doesn’t place the responsibility for any loss of strength on women, no matter how wily they may be. If her son loses his strength, it will be because he gives it to women. They can’t take it from him.

How does a man give his strength to women? He gives no specifics. It is assumed by many that she is focused on sexual sins. Undoubtedly, that is one of the main ways men give their strength away (see Proverbs 5:9-12; 7:26-27). Men controlled by their sexual passions are weak, like a city broken into and without walls (Proverbs 25:28). The more they allow their sexual passions to run wild, the weaker they become. Men give strength away to prostitutes, pornography, or even manipulative wives; wives who seek to control their husbands by using sex as a bargaining chip. Men, listen to Lemuel’s mother. Don’t give your strength to women sexually.

While sexual sins are prominent, I believe Lemuel’s mother speaks of any area where men have God-given strength. Men are to be strong in setting and maintaining a mission. A man is to have direction and purpose, so that he is building something for the kingdom in a particular way. He is to maintain mental and emotional strength to avoid being manipulated and diverted. A strong man maintains his purpose, confidence, and strength that keeps him from capitulating to others’ agendas for his life, tossed about by others’ opinions. He is willing to lose relationships if he must to maintain the mission. This is what Jesus did. This is what he expects us to do. Men, don’t give up this “frame” to women. They are there to help you, not set the course.

Men are given strength authoritatively and are not to give that strength to women. Men have responsibilities that come with God-given authority and must use authority to serve the genuine needs of those under their care. “Genuine needs” are not always “felt needs,” and they certainly aren’t what everyone else wants to do without qualification. Men are to exhibit strength authoritatively, not as tyrants, but for the sake of others, even when they don’t understand what they need.

When men retain and use their strength, it is good for both men and women. When men give away their strength, everyone suffers. Men, don’t give your strength to women.

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FROM BEING A DOCTOR TO BEING A HOMEMAKER

This is from an email I received last week:

I am a doctor who has just recently quit and become a full time homemaker.

I am so BLESSED. My depression and anxiety have VANISHED.

I suffered terribly for so many years, battling through medical school.

And for what? For a qualification? It brought me nothing but pain and sadness. The medical school and university environment is evil.

If only I found God and your blog sooner, I would have saved myself so much heartache, pain, depression…the list goes on.

I am blessed to stay at home while my husband works, and I care for our 20 month old. I just turned 29.

It was always my dream to have a big family, but my parents always told me that “kids ruin your life” and “get your career and have kids later.” So wrong.

I worry now that I am 29 with one child. Am I too old to have a big family? Are three kids possible? I wish I had spent my 20s building up a family. I have so much painful regret. Please can you offer me some advice and wisdom.

Praise the Lord, I never took alcohol (I have never drank alcohol in my life) and never took birth control. I just worry that it’s too late for me to have a big family.

By the way, I bought your books on my Amazon Kindle. Your words were the signpost for me to turn my life around. And my life certainly has done a complete 360! I am so happy to be following God’s word. He is so wise.

***I told her that there’s a godly woman on YouTube who was married at 28 years old and went on to have nine children, so NO, it’s not too late! My grandmother had her seventh at 47 years old.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

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