MEN FEARING MARRIAGE AND THE COURTS

Eric Conn is a wise man. I share many of his tweets on my social media sites. Recently, he shared this one.

Joseph Spurgeon responded to this tweet by writing the following:

I agree with Mr. Conn, but I want to address one of the responses to his post. Someone argued that until we get solutions to the problems that men face in buying a house, dealing with courts, and getting better economic status, then how can we expect men or women to want to get married.

This might sound wise, but it’s worldly wisdom. Marriage and child bearing have always taken faith. This mindset that a man has to have everything together (a house he owns and a settled career) may sound wise, but is it biblical?

The Israelites under the yoke of slavery in Egypt were very fruitful. And again they were in bondage. Joseph and Mary were so poor that they couldn’t afford the lamb to sacrifice when Christ was born and therefore had to sacrifice turtledoves.

While it is certainly good to desire financial stability, we aren’t promised financial stability in this life. We aren’t promised the house with a big yard or the homestead. We aren’t promised the courts won’t be stacked against us. But we should still heed Scripture’s warning that it’s better to marry than to burn, or the Scriptural command to be fruitful and multiply.

A young man needs to have a work ethic to be able to provide for a wife, a vision for serving God aka a mission, but he doesn’t have to have it all settled. Rather the whole point of marriage is to find a woman who can help you in the building of the household, not that you build it all by yourself.

This may mean renting an apartment the first few years of marriage while you save for later. It will mean sacrifices together. But can we stop with the faithlessness and fear that masquerades as wisdom.

For we walk by faith, not by sight.
2 Corinthians 5:7

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