In an article in WSJ called “Cheap Sex and the Decline of Marriage,” you will find that the free, cheap sex that feminism promoted is not so cheap. There are some very interesting facts in this article that isn’t even written from a Christian perspective.
A man named Kevin said this, “Girls are easier to mislead than guys just by lying or just not really caring. If you know what girls want, then you know you should not give that to them until the proper time. If you do that strategically, then you can really have anything you want…whether it’s a relationship, sex, or whatever. You have the control.”
He knows girls are easier to mislead than guys. One of the reasons that God forbids women from teaching men or being in authority over them is because women are more easily deceived (1 Timothy 2:14). God created us more emotional in order to be home with children. It’s our nature. Rather than fighting it, it’s best to admit it so we can be aware of this fact. Women have been heavily deceived by feminism and have lost everything good in life as a result.
“For American men, sex has become rather cheap. As compared in the past, many women today expect little in return for sex, in terms of time, attention, commitment or fidelity. Men, in turn, do not feel compelled to supply these goods as they once did. It is the new sexual norm for Americans, men and women alike, of every age.”
I expected a LOT in return for sex as a young woman. I expected a ring on my finger and an “I do until death do we part.” I am thankful that I was wise enough to understand this fact even though I grew up in a very promiscuous high school with very promiscuous friends. I dated two guys in high school. They both wanted to have sex with me, but I wouldn’t let them. They both wanted to marry me.
“This transformation was driven in part by birth control. Its widespread adoption by women in recent decades not only boosted their educational and economic fortunes but also reduced their dependence on men. As the risk of pregnancy radically declined, sex shed many of the social and personal costs that once encouraged women to wait.”
Birth control has been so incredibly destructive. Radical feminists brought it to America in order to “free” women. All it did was enslave women to a nine to five job and working for a boss, without a faithful husband and children to care for at home.
“Many young men and women still aspire to marriage as it has long been conventionally understood – faithful, enduring, focused on raising children. But they no longer seem to think that this aspiration requires their discernment, prudence or self-control.”
This aspiration definitely includes discernment, prudence, AND self-control. Women must be discerning in the men whom they may want to marry. They must be prudent with their behavior and keep themselves modest and chaste IF they want to marry a good, godly man. Self-control is desperately needed in order to attain these goals.
“Kristin (29 year old woman) rightly wants the men who she dates to treat her well and to respect her interests, but the choices that she and other women have made unwittingly teach the men in their lives that such behavior is noble and nice but not required in order to sleep with them. They are hoping to find good men without supporting the sexual norms that would actually make men better.”
Feminism wants its cake and eat it too, but it doesn’t work that way. An eternal principle is that we will reap what we sow. Feminists are reaping the godless, ugly fruit they have sown. Don’t be one of them. Seek God’s ways instead.
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour.
1 Thessalonians 4:3,4